Expectation

The most dangerous thing a person can have is the expectation that too from other person. This is the foundation for the building of Sorrows and inferiority complex. Whenever we do something we expect some result and if the result won’t come as expected we feel bad. And if we analyze the cause we will come to know the cause for the result and we can rectify it in the next attempt. But expecting something from others is mere stupidity. Even with friends we expect them to behave in a way we like and if by any chance we come to know something which is against the expectation then we feel bad, these love failures occur because of expectation only, people become Devdasas because they expect the person whom they love to love them back. There is no rule that a person whom you love should compulsorily love you back. When people realize this basic fact then they won’t feel depressed when a girl or a boy rejects their proposal. Also if we undergo some tests or interviews we should stop our self from expecting much. When we do not expect anything from others and if we get something then we will obviously feel very happy but when we expect something and if we get less than what is expected then we tend to feel sad for the remaining part rather than enjoying what we got. I have seen cases where a person feels bad because his/her friend did not tell something. My question is why should we expect him/her to tell us everything? For them we may not be the suitable person to share everything or maybe they are not comfortable sharing things. The reason may be many but we should refrain our self from thinking about the reason. If we still think about the reason the final reason which we find may affect our relationship. The reason which we think may be true or not but if we keep on thinking then at some point of time we feel inferior or we may even think that the other person is egoistic. Also I have seen cases where people expect their loved ones to talk only to him/her. If their loved ones talk with other person casually also this person feels bad. All these things are because of the expectation. Up to certain extent this expectation is good rather doesn’t cause harm but when it crosses certain threshold then it takes its own path and destroys our inner self. Also it destroys the way we see the world. Sometimes I do not understand the behavior of Human mind. It sometimes gives more importance to the reaction of the external world rather than appreciating what we have put on the show. If we can control this particular nature of the mind then there will not be room for sadness. But I am really not sure whether we can achieve this or not. For some questions I really do not get any answers.