Possessiveness

Possessiveness is just like a hyperlink which actually points to the feeling of insecurity you are having. If you are possessive about something then it actually shows you are not confident that the thing will remain with you. Same is the case when you feel possessive about a person. If you think that a person will leave you for any reason then there arises the feel of insecurity and that will ultimately lead to possessiveness. Usually girls are possessive about so many things which we men cannot understand. So whatever I am writing are related to men in general. And men are possessive only about their girlfriends. Men usually do not want the girl whom they like to be close with some other men. This is what I have observed although there are many exceptions to this. But usually if a guy is being possessive about a girl then the girl can be 95% sure that the guy is treating her as his GF. If the person is not having the feeling of insecurity then there is no place for this possessiveness for example usually among friends there will be no such feeling. We quarrel with each other, we quarrel with each other still we know that the other person is not going to break the friendship and go away. This feeling further increases the comfortability level we have with the person. If we feel possessive about a person then we tend to do all the things which attracts that person or something which makes that person happier. We usually do not point out the other person’s negative point due to this insecurity. We will be always thinking what that person will be feeling about us. This hinders us to behave normally and forces us to pretend in many cases. What I do not understand is if we have to pretend to make a person happy just to maintain his friendship then is it necessary? I mean the other person should also know the value of this person in his/her life. If they realize it then this person will not feel insecure about that person at all. So possessiveness will not arise only.